Be independent, together.

Today’s post is the next in a series about healthy relationships. Last week we talked about the importance of dating your significant other (and the best Memphis dates spots!), but today we’re going to talk about independence.

It might sound contradictory, but some independence in a relationship is healthy. Of course we want to share things with our partners, but it is also important to do things for ourselves. Plus, having some separate interests keep the relationship more interesting.

Hobbies are good for us, they indulge our creativity and studies show that they offer numerous health benefits—even reducing blood pressure! You and your partner likely have some similar interests, but there are things you enjoy that he doesn’t.  So do them for yourself!

You’ve always wanted to learn how to play the piano? Find a teacher and set up weekly lessons!

Independent hobbies are good for us, but so is alone time. It allows us to recharge and listen to our inner selves. Once a week have lunch alone instead of with co-workers or friends. Go to a park and watch the birds and enjoy the sun. Read a chapter of a book.

Our lives are super busy, I know, but it is important to make time for yourself. Do things that you love, because you love them, and make sure your partner does the same. Enjoy each other – enjoy yourself!

In the true marriage relation, the independence of the husband and wife is equal, the dependence mutual, and their obligations reciprocal. –Lucretia Mott


Written by Catherine Clubb-Brown, intern

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